"Here's how you need to say this to get what you want." I've even started working with him on how to work me. "But I shouldn't have to walk the dog because I did it yesterday! It's Luke's turn to walk the dog! I have soccer practice and it will make me too tired. ![]() Instead of coming to a conclusion after examining the evidence, he begins arguments by deciding on his desired outcome and works backward to crank out proof. We tell another son he acts like a bad lawyer. They are hyperfocused on what THEY want, and everything can feel like a debate. Just as toddlers need to learn how to walk on wobbly legs, tweens need to learn how to think with fresh brains. I learned tweens' brains undergo massive structural and functional changes in middle school. ![]() So his confusion might have had something to do with the fact that he was always high-but something tells me he'd be confused anyway. You remember this Sean Penn character from the movie Fast Times at Ridgemont High? OK. What's my locker code again? How do I pay for lunch? Where are my shoes?!?! For awhile, I nicknamed one son Spicoli. There's a lot for them to take in with a transition to a new and bigger school. I've gotten more used to it over the past year, but thought I'd outline some of my observations for those moms and dads who are nearing the milestone. While middle school has been a great experience so far, there are times when my sons have felt like strangers to me. When you hit the bigger milestones-like starting middle school-it honestly feels like driving fast in a convertible in 30-degree weather, and you're just trying to keep the right level of oxygen flowing. Like when they're suddenly mobile, or potty training, or strapping on backpacks for the first day of school. When you have twins, every stage in their development is, well. "Why do they keep mentioning cellphones?" I whispered to my friend. ![]() It was big, loud and fast-paced as I tried to hold onto every word said while I feverishly took notes about electives, the eight learning styles and cellphone use. Fast forward to last summer at middle school orientation, where my twin boys would soon attend. As the mom of three boys within three years of each other, I really do feel like I have some expertise about bringing up boys. I even wrote about it a few years ago, when I shared my favorite tips and advice for those with little ones.īack then, I felt knowledgeable, experienced and confident.
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